How different would your life be if you had more self confidence? How much more would you achieve?
Interesting question, don’t you think?
It’s a fact though. Raising your self confidence levels will improve your life. Having a healthy self esteem makes it so much easier for you to achieve your goals whether that’s in terms of your career, your relationships or even just being so much happier about life.
The other amazing thing that happens when you build your confidence is that you’ll not only be thrilled about living your life to the fullest, your excitement and energy will also rub off on those around you and you end up helping those you come in contact with. It’s a win-win situation. How cool is that?
So, the question really should be,
“How exactly do you build confidence?”
If you struggle with confidence issues, you probably crave to feel valued, special, and wish you could live to your true potential. But, your lack of confidence is holding you back. It’s so incredibly frustrating!
You probably overly focus on being liked, a people pleaser, and keeping everyone around you happy. You worry more about others than you do yourself. You might find it hard to make decisions or feel like you don’t have a lot of control in your life.
This is where self-confidence comes in. When you feel confident in yourself and your abilities, then you are far more likely to make your own choices and take risks so you can walk your own path.
Imagine the freedom of feeling so confident within yourself that you follow through on your own priorities instead of putting your goals on the backburner while you help everyone else with their dreams (which they often don’t even appreciate).
So, what you want to develop is an unshakeable confidence within yourself. This includes having a powerful and clear vision of your future. With this type of confidence, you’ll also be able to make decisive action but in a calm and self-assured way. Isn’t that what you want?
Well, guess what? This is the way you’re supposed to feel. That’s your natural born right. It’s just experiences along the way have beaten you down and changed how you see yourself.
I can help you change this so you can once again be happy and pleased with who you are and what you believe in.
With consistent, small steps you can get to the point where you believe in yourself completely and you’re consistently taking positive actions towards achieving your dreams but also living a life without doubting yourself every step of the way.
How Confident Do You Seem to Others?
Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you?
|Confident Behavior||Behavior Associated With low Self-Confidence|
|Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it.||Governing your behavior based on what other people think.|
|Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things.||Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure, and so avoid taking risks.|
|Admitting your mistakes, and learning from them.||Working hard to cover up mistakes and hoping that you can fix the problem before anyone notices.|
|Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments.||Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.|
|Accepting compliments graciously. “Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I’m pleased you recognize my efforts.”||Dismissing compliments offhandedly. “Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it.”|
As you can see from these examples, low self-confidence can be self-destructive, and it often manifests itself as negativity. Confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.
What Is Self-Confidence?
Two main things contribute to self-confidence: self-efficacy and self-esteem.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed; and it’s this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks.